Happy Valentine’s Day!

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THE LADY OF SHALLOTT, 1894, John William Waterhouse (Pre-Raphaelite)

I love the unabashedly romantic works of Waterhouse, which explains why I’ve used his art work on several of my covers. Although a 19th century artist, his paintings have a contemporary feel. Also, some of his pieces translate well for a subtle D/S theme–then again, that’s my erotic mind at work.

Since today is Valentine’s Day, I thought I’d tell you what I’ve been pondering lately—-Solely within the context of a romantic relationship, is it better to love or to be loved?

Consider, if you will, the hauntingly beautiful song I CAN’T MAKE YOU LOVE ME:
(Artist: Bonnie Raitt; Lyrics: Reid Michael Barry & Shamblin James Allen II)

Turn down the lights, turn down the bed
Turn down these voices inside my head
Lay down with me, tell me no lies
Just hold me close, don’t patronize – don’t patronize me

Cause I can’t make you love me if you don’t
You can’t make your heart feel something it won’t
Here in the dark, in these lonely hours
I will lay down my heart and I’ll feel the power
But you won’t, no you won’t
’cause I can’t make you love me, if you don’t

I’ll close my eyes, then I won’t see
The love you don’t feel when you’re holding me
Morning will come and I’ll do what’s right
Just give me till then to give up this fight
And I will give up this fight

Cause I can’t make you love me if you don’t
You can’t make your heart feel something it won’t
Here in the dark, in these lonely hours
I will lay down my heart and I’ll feel the power
But you won’t, no you won’t
’cause I can’t make you love me, if you don’t

There is empowerment in loving someone, even if that someone cannot or will not return those feelings. If you believe, as I do, that feeling anything, even heartache, is a gift, then, aren’t there burdens and rewards for both participants in an unequal emotional relationship?


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