Sex and the Erotic Romance Writer

Catch your attention, did I?

I certainly hope so. If that title didn’t lure you in for a quick peek at this blog, I should consider a change of sub-genre. Maybe try my hand at writing sweet romances—

Yawn.

Upon telling my husband I intended to write erotica, he asked if he could look at the pictures.

–No pictures– I smirked.

“Oh.” He gave a knowing nod. “Women’s erotica.”

–Yep. Exactly. No visual aids necessary.–

I write with a female audience uppermost in my mind. I speak specifically to OUR fantasies, not to male fantasies, and I refuse to censure my thoughts when relating certain universal themes of the female sexual experience. However, my “voice” is fairly gritty and realistic, and I do, at times, create unpretty visual images.

No apology. As I see it, gritty realism in no way detracts from the romance; in fact, a little reality testing can enhance the romance. If any of you have visited my website you will already know I am an avid gardener. I do not wear white gloves while working in the perennial bed.

Or, while writing a sex scene.

In order to get the job done, I dig my hands in, get my nails dirty, and celebrate the sight and texture and scent of earthy life slipping between my fingers. Just as a heaping shovel of manure produces a better flower blossom, a heaping dose of truth will produce a better lovemaking scene.

Truthful does not mean raunchy. Well, not all the time anyway. I will use raunch if my plot requires raunch.

“But raunchy is a good thing,” my husband said when we recently discussed this subject. “Gross is bad, but everything else is good. Huh? Why are you looking at me like that?”

Men. They’re wonderful, but they just don’t get erotic romance.

My historical romances usually contain dark thematic elements, while my contemporaries tend toward the comedic but, because I write for women, both . . . ahem . . . cum with an erotic edge.

And emotion.

Lots of emotion. When I write my stories, I feel what my characters feel; when you read my stories, my heartfelt goal is for you to feel something too. I love to hear when one of my books has elicited an emotional response from a reader. Any emotional response. Anger, frustration, joy . . . all delight me. I want the reader wrung out. Tears are very much appreciated.

I try very hard not to write flat stories. I try to create a scenario with characters who seem real because of their flaws and who become heroic when they rise above those human failings and frailties. I try . . . well, I try in many different areas, but what I need is the assurance of a happy ending. Life is sad enough without paying for tears. Which is why I write explicit, happliy-ever-after love stories.


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